Month: June 2021
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A Brain Twister That Saved A 45 Year Old First-Time Entrepreneurship
I have been struggling. As a 45 year old first time entrepreneur, I find being on my own surprisingly difficult. I now truly know what “I am too old for this shit” feels like. I didn’t realize how much I have gotten used to surviving and navigating in a workplace where the circumstances, context, and rules…
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Father’s Day 2021
I have not talked to my father since 2016. He was verbally abusive to my brother and his family, and I gave up on trying to rebuild a relationship with him. My parents separated when I was 14. It was a peaceful break up. Having said that, knowing what I now know about psychology and…
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Morning After
I fell ill- fever, sore throat, nasty cough. The feeling in the first morning of recovery is special. I feel weak but hopeful. I feel refreshed, and it’s a rare kind of refreshed. Perhaps it’s because I am slowly regaining smell, and so I am only smelling a fraction of all smells. These are strange…
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The Last Time, by Sam Harris
Take a moment to think about all the things in this life that you will experience for the last time. When is the last time you swim in the ocean? Or went camping? When is the last time you took a walk just to take a walk? As you go about your day today, consider…
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「佳節之思」寫一抒情文
沒想到，在短短25年，這個社會裏所有的真相，都變得模糊。 原來每6件我的事實當中就有4件是別人的fake news。原來低脂可減肥可致肥可減肥。原來運動是暴動是運動。 你我看到的、聽到的、體驗到的、原來是都不可能一樣的。我們可同意的、可共覓的，越來越少。 現在我們只可以依靠別人替我們的warrior hearts代言。我們只可以透過暗淡的顏色尋找共鳴和同志。我們只可以把我們對土根的愛與抱負，寄託於灣仔長大的小肉鮮22歲的壽辰派對。 我覺得很懦弱。自己所有的選擇，都很自私。我在逃避、在放棄。我是一個活廢老。每次當孩子問及一些連我自己這個成年人也不明白的問題時，我都會騙他說：「你長大後就會明白的。」我很討厭自己為什麼找不到勇氣，跟他說實話？「孩子，你長大後就會明白如何妥協的。」 維克多·弗蘭克在「Man’s Search For Meaning」一書裏說：「當一個人成功找到『意義』後，他會找到快樂，也會找到應對痛苦的能耐。」 所以每逢佳節，我都會問自己：「我是否每天都在做連三歲小孩子都知道是有意義的事情嗎？」 對我而言，唯一能幫助自己找到在這個社會偷生的能耐，就是常常認真地回答這個問題。