In video games, {Level: 99} is the maximum level. When you reach {Level: 99}, your character has achieved the limits of the game. So what are “{Level: 99} professional skills” like? This is the kind of stuff I work on with my clients.
Let’s start with {Level: 99} 🗣Discussion:
🤔How did you feel after having a great discussion?
To get to a {Level: 99} of anything you’ll need something extraordinary. World-class conversationalists, from Chris Voss to Dale Carnegie to Krista Tippett, said that in order to be uncomfortably stretched, we must “edge-ride” on extremes:
(1) STOP TRYING TO FIND COMMON GROUND 🙅🏻♂️
A discussion is more than about what we can agree on. It should be about gaining an understanding of why the other side believes what they believe. It is to accept the value in relating to each other without rushing to a common ground.
In fact, the desire of coming to an agreement put pressure on truly understanding each other.
(2) IT’S ABOUT THOSE YOU DISLIKE🤬
A good discussion is whether you can acknowledge what is good in the beliefs of someone you disagree with. Better yet, can you imagine the perspective of someone you dislike?
So, can you forget about finding common ground when discussing with someone you dislike?