And I am applying them at work.
Dr. Lee is a renowned family therapist. I took her courses because they offered live sessions for us to observe.
I THINK YOU AREÂ RIGHT
A wife complained about her husbandâs lack of involvement. When asked how he saw the situation, after a long silence, the husband muttered, âI was too tired from work âŠâ As the wife fired back, Dr. Lee cut her off, âI think he is right!â
Dr. Lee taught us the use of personal judgement should be delicate, and this was one of her tricks to âgive voice.â From a supportive nudge to a timid child to a stern demand to a rebellious spouse, âOur role is to give voice and revive dialogues.â
ISNâT IT INTERESTING
Before each live session, Dr. Lee would prep with therapists who referred the clients. She was adept in spotting patterns of situations, yet she remained genuinely delighted by the unknown. âOh, isnât it interesting? đŻâ She would exclaim. âThe more cases I see, the less certain I am. Isnât it interesting?!â
THE CONTEXT WE AREÂ IN
âHow can you help a deflated spouse discover her reality? What questions uncover the context of why he feels he doesnât have enough attention? This is critical because how you see people in context influences how you communicate to them. Itâs not what you say that matters.â